Days, weeks, months are dedicated to the awareness of life events and different health conditions, often without a clear definition of what “awareness” means, or what, exactly, is supposed to come of it. I hope this post makes sense. It's coming from a busy mind that has so much to say. I hope that whatever you take away from reading this post is positive and helpful. Also that you feel encouraged to simply be BRAVE.
Last year I joined a group of amazing individuals who lost a pregnancy and or infant on their parenthood journey. I didn't even know there was a day of remembrance for us particular individuals and children who left this world so soon. The month of October has a special place in my heart because so many of my life events have taken place in this month. Now, October 15th will always be another day I support for the rest of my life.
It seems as though that infant and pregnancy loss is continuing to be talked about more and more, but still is a topic that is still uncomfortable for many to discuss. (I was probably on more of the uncomfortable side until I experienced myself) I feel it can be so easy for many families to grieve in silence because of the stigma that comes with talking about death, perhaps because it is so sacred or because it can be difficult to relate to those who may not understand. I feel it can also be very difficult for those who have never experienced this particular loss to understand and relate to the grieving process of a family who has lost a baby, child or pregnancy. Not to mention really know what to say or not to say to help families live with their loss, not just "get over their loss."
Since we lost our sweet baby boy last October, I have found that talking about his little life has really helped me grieve along with helping others feel more comfortable and open to talking about it, and reaching out to find ideas of what they can do to support a family member or friend who has recently lost a baby. To me this is AWARENESS. Sharing is caring and for those who haven't experienced it, taking the time to better understand simply by being proactive and doing the best you can of being supportive to those you care about. If that makes sense.
I can't even tell you how much joining my own group of people and individuals has greatly enlightened my understanding of being more compassionate of those going through difficult times in their life. That is because more and more individuals are speaking out about what ever it is they are going through. More and more individuals are raising awareness with many other things that go on in their lives that I see and read and think about. As you may all know, it is also breast cancer awareness month, spina-bifida awareness month, dwarfism awareness month, down syndrome awareness month, SIDS awareness month, mental illness awareness month, just to name a few. No matter what it is we are raising awareness of or sharing, I find a great deal of connection not only to those who have lost a baby but who are dealing with hard things because I sincerely feel for people who have broken or bruised hearts. I have felt challenged and broken down this year and I know that hard things do happen in peoples lives. I feel I have been learning a lot about this for the last several years now. I have found that it has been something that has helped me through my grieving process and reminded me I'm not alone in hard challenges specifically infant loss. To me this is raising awareness. Networking and being BRAVE enough to share, listen and be open about it, which in turn I feel can help another through difficult times.
My motto as of this past year has been BE-BRAVE-DEAR-ONE. I imagine that each of us, even if we aren't particularly in a category or a group such as those who are dealing with a loss, disease or particular situation; are dealing or will deal with some type of hard challenge at some point in time and will need to be brave. One thing that I feel I have had to do throughout this difficult challenge was to be brave. I feel from the moment I knew that I could potentially lose my baby or that he could potentially have some type of physical disability if he did live, had to step up and be brave for myself and for my baby boy.
It is my hope that we can continue to raise awareness of those groups we are passionate about because of our personal experiences or simply out of love and concern for the other. But also to raise awareness of simply being BRAVE in whatever challenge or situation that comes our way and not just give up. Please take the time to support those who are raising awareness for their specific cause. Please take the time to help others even when you are going through something difficult yourself. (I really think this boosts your spirits) Please take the time to share your love and concern for those who need support with whatever is going on in their lives. Please take the time to be kind to yourself if you are the one who is going through a difficult time. Please share your bravery to those around you. Please take the time to remind those who are suffering or being challenged that they are brave and can do it. So with that said I am adding one more thing to be aware of this month. That is simply being BRAVE. #bebraveawareness
Above or Below Whatever your device sees, I have left a free printable to have in your home and to deliver to your friend or family member who may just need a little remainder that they are brave or a boost to be brave in whatever situation they are dealing with.
Sharing is caring. Sharing is raising awareness.