You go one more round, when that bell rings
They say you're done, but here you come...
You're a hammer hitting', spitting' fire, PrizeFighter...
When you're sweating from the fear, you look it the eye,
Turn the sound of defeat into your battle cry,
Stakes are down, you're outta luck,
Look at you, smiling with a shiner, standing higher...
It can take a little time and a lot of patience with yourself, but with a positive attitude and helpful ways of thinking or singing for that matter... you can find yourself becoming braver than you ever thought possible.
Am I the only person who uses music as a motivator? Or a tool to lift the soul? I'm sure many of you out there do it to. That really is just one thing I use to help myself see the vision of living a more bold and brave life.
As I have continued to look back at my life over the last several years, I have realized I have personally used a few strategies that have aided me in my grief, anxieties and struggles that helped me stand higher and feel like a Prize fighter.
Here are a few tips and ideas I've strung together on how you can continue to fight your fight in life, live bravely and turn any sound of defeat you may be experiencing at this time into your own personal battle cry and come out on top.
- As many of you know, I have a special love for lions. After 20 months now since my sweet Bode passed away I have come to terms with the fact that courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is having enough strength to get up and try again or keep going even when you are unsure of the outcome. Plain and simple. Trying again, despite fears is the only way to move forward as you battle the pain, fears or any other emotion you may be experiencing and let the happiness back in all at the same time.
- Remember, courage is not the absence of fear, but the strength to confront that fear. My motto still to this day since 2012 has been (and I've already said this 100 times and i'll say it again) "feel the fear and do it anyway." Lets just say I was the anxious bride. That phrase is what helped through the transition of single life to married life. It what helped me when I was holding on for dear life when I knew it was a possibility we could lose Bode. It helped me saddle that horse back up and try again for another baby and all the unknowns throughout the entire process. It still to this day helps me as I am navigating life as a new mommy to a LO. I mean I have lots of anxieties and fears about motherhood so far but that doesn't mean I'm not a courageous lioness aka momma. Remember, you are braver than you give yourself credit for. So am I.
- When you need to summon up courage, remember other challenges you overcame. Everyone has been brave at some point in life (learning to ride a bike, for example). You can be brave again, I just know it! I feel many of my past experiences have led me to this past couple years. It's interesting what barriers or obstacles we face actually have a great purpose in the bigger scheme of things. I never in a million years would have thought I would have been grateful for my trials facing what I would call an extreme anxiety disorder in my early twenties and through graduate school and through my marriage transition. Let's say I cannot imagine going through infant loss without some of the tools and lessons that were part of my coping strategies in my early months following the loss of our son. I 100% know part of my survival in not going into complete and utter debilitating depression was because I knew somewhat how to help myself because I had already experienced such anxiety challenges earlier in my life.
- Find an inspiring verse or song. (Like the one I chose above that has been a great help to me) A verse or song may help you feel you're not alone. Write it down on a piece of paper and keep it with you. Better yet, memorize it! As you go through your day, sing the song or read or recite the verse! Music has always been a motivator and or a way inspiration finds my heart. I have so so many songs I put on repeat. I know you do to. Use that song of inspiration to get you through your day. Or days for that matter. (YOUCAN PLAY THE PRIZE FIGHTER SONG BELOW)
- Fake it till you make it. Learning to tolerate the uncertainty and discomfort of certain situations is just that -- a constant learning experience. You won’t be brave overnight. I have read that research has shown that “putting on a brave face” even when you’re not feeling brave, can in fact help you become braver. Don’t wait until you “feel” brave. Often, even people we think of as courageous -- firefighters, soldiers, doctors, performers, don’t feel brave in the moment. They just know what has to be done, and they choose to do it. We must choose to "feel that fear and do it anyway." On the flip side, believing that you can’t do something is likely to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your belief in yourself can either help or deteriorate your performance. Positive self-talk has to be a daily work in progress. I struggle with this sometimes, but try hard to work on this daily.
I hope each one of you reading this know, so many of you have played a part in my continued efforts in believing in myself and being brave enough to share my story. I have connected with so many through writing my thoughts down on this little blog. I really use this as a place for me to jot down information that I personally need to remember and utilize in my life daily. So I hope any of these tips can help you in some way like they help me day to day.
Thank you for reading. Take care for now.
PS. HERE IS MY SONG OF CHOICE I PLAY WHEN I FEEL A LITTLE DEFEATED...