Was I already having an emotional day today that when I saw this women crying I started crying? No!
As I recently read a wonderful quote by scribblesandcrumbs, "Pain and suffering are a universal language." Now me and this women haven't walked the same roads, but I know what it is like to lose someone special to me. Now being the proud owner of a puppy, I CANNOT imagine the day that we would have to say goodbye. The though makes me sick, because I already love him too much too. So again, to that lady, I'm sorry for your loss. Whether it's losing a pet or losing a child, the sadness one feels when there was true real love involved is the same.
Being an only child and all, (my mother having 9 pregnancies and me her only live birth) grew up with lots of animals. Our pets realistically were my mom and dads "other" children. The aka siblings I never had I guess you could say. I am not sure where I am going with this whole post, but I do know one thing. I FINALLY understand my moms pain weather it's losing her babies or her doggies.
I mean this legitimately. Never before, had I felt "real" raw emotion towards the fact that my MOM had 8 pregnancy losses, until I lost one of my own. Never before, had I felt the same love for a pet until now (when I have taken care of and owned my own) I somehow have changed. My loss has changed me. Changed me in a way, I have felt sadness, love and compassion for those who too have walked the path of infant loss. Or other experiences I have had thus far in my life.
For my friends, who too have had a difficult time getting pregnant and/or keeping a pregnancy. Even infant loss. I cry for them.
For families I work with who have children with severe disabilities… knowing that could have been my baby if he were to have lived. I cry for them. To my mom and dad, who lost 8 of her own pregnancies and kept trying….. now seeing us go through our sadness… I cry for them. I get them, they get me.
There are many families out there who struggle with difficult things. Not only infant loss. Divorce, addiction, challenging children, anxiety, depression, singlehood, cancer, etc. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. OUR STRUGGLES are real.
Now even though we all deal with our struggles differently, we are all a lot the same. We are all connected in someway because LIFE is challenging and brings experiences we never could have imagined and or knew the pains we have felt could be so hard to grasp at times. But we do because we are brave and we are strong. And together knowing each of us struggle, can mend.
So to that lady at the Vet who I didn't know before. I am so very sorry for your loss. I cried for you.
Please my friends, remember when you think others lives look so perfect. They aren't. And please my friends remember when you think your life is going perfectly…there is a chance something tragic could be coming around the corner. All I can leave you with this post is simply, be kind. Because OUR STRUGGLES ARE REAL!